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It's been a while since I have posted. I have been making pillowcases for Christmas presents and tote bag for my daughter's birthday. She will get that this Sunday. Have also been trying to spend time with my dad. He has dementia and has been admitted to a nursing home. It is breaking my heart. He knows his memory is going and he says he feels like a prisoner. He remembers when he was a young man but cannot remember what I just said to him. He asks the same question or tells the same story over and over again. I am having a family dinner Sunday and going to get him. I just hope it isn't too much for him. He gets very worried in new situations and starts to shake. I pray to God for strength and guidence.

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Comment by cinderella pisani on September 4, 2012 at 11:08am

Have started machine quilting pot holders for my daughters for xmas. I'm sure I'll get better at this with practice. It's fun and sometimes all I can do is laugh at myself.  Whoa! I mean, that stitching was supposed to be crooked like that right? Of course! Pardon me. Just having a conversation with myself. My daughters will never know that wavy line was supposed to be straight, will they. Oh, my friends, what would I do without my sewing machine? It is a bundle of fun!

Comment by cinderella pisani on August 28, 2012 at 12:35pm

My prayers were answered! All of the family had a wonderful time. Dad was happy to be here and enjoyed petting my cats, and meeting my daughter's two golden retrievers.  He was always an animal lover and seemed to really enjoy it. He ate well (unusual for him) and learned a new game of cards, Texas Hold em. In the past, he liked to play any card game and remembers everything about cards including if a straight or flush wins. I can never remember that. Yesterday he was admitted to the hospital for an irregular heart beat and all he could talk about in the ER was Sunday. He remembered every bit of it. It was wonderful to have a small glimps of my dad again. I know it won't last and was almost gone today but it was great for awhile. Thank you, friends for all your prayers and words of encouragement. It is great to know I have your support. Loving thoughts to you all.

Comment by June Johnson/Wi on August 26, 2012 at 6:23pm

What a difficult journey you and your Dad are on.  I am a retired nursing home RN having worked with many dementia residents for 30 years.  The best advice I can give you is to place yourself where your Dad is at any given moment; by doing this you are "validating" his thoughts and statements.  This may also save you and him from a lot of frustration.  Don't try to bring him back to the present unless he requests you to do so.  Just love him heaps.

Comment by Georgia W., IL on August 25, 2012 at 3:49pm
So sorry for your heartbreak! A co-worker went through this with her Dad and it was tough to see her struggle, but in the end she was so glad she was there for him all the way to the end! Your Dad still has good insight for him to know his memory is going & then be able to equate it to being a "prisoner of his own mind!" Sending prayers for you & your family!
Comment by Joan on August 25, 2012 at 9:19am

Maybe bring Dad over for just an hour or so until he gets used to it?  Does he like to going out for a ride in the car?  Sometimes just a simple outing or a pretend grocery run picking up just one or two things will perk up their spirits.  Used to take care of both my parents full time and I agree with Pam and others, you need to make time for yourself or you will burn out.     

Comment by Pam/NY on August 25, 2012 at 3:51am

We are going through similar situation. It's very tough and rewarding at the same time. Be glad you are in the same area. Take time for yourself and ask for help with visits, etc.

Comment by Cindy on August 24, 2012 at 8:12pm

You might want to check out the caregivers support group on CWU.

Comment by Terry F on August 24, 2012 at 6:52pm

I'm so sorry about your Dad.  So hard to see our parents become dependent.

Comment by Barb/WI on August 24, 2012 at 6:35pm

Nothing can prepare us for these tough times with aging parents.  He's lucky to have you close by.  Hang in there, and be sure to take good care of yourself.  I found that when I was too focused on the health problems of my parents, I neglected my own health.  I'd love to spare someone else from making the same mistake.

Comment by Janet/MO on August 24, 2012 at 5:45pm

It is always so heartbreaking when our loved ones develop these horrible diseases!  I hope your family gets together goes okay for him.

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