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I knew that title would grab your attention. hee hee.  But with some of the things I put up with that title might not be too far off.

Bud is back to the nursing home.  He went into the hospital with double pneumonia.  After her recovered they took him back to Marshall's in Machias for long term care.  This is his 3rd trip over there.  He is still up to his old phone calling and leaving numerous messages.  I went to a public supper Friday night and then stopped in to visit a neighbor when I got home.  There were 44 messages on the answering machine.  I was gone 2 hours.

Then Sunday, I go out to eat after church with my friend and her husband.  The past two Sunday's Alan has been bringing a friend of his to church and this Sunday the friend decided he would like to go and eat with us. Now everyone is asking me who I'm "dating"  I make it very clear that I'm not dating anyone and not interested in taking care of any more men.  Then they mention the man that I'm sitting with at the restaurant.  Small town gossip mongers.

Then yesterday to put the topping on the cake. I agreed to teach a sewing class here in the complex.  They wanted to make the Tea Towel apron's that I wear when I'm sewing.  I ordered the tea towels and told them I would be teaching the class this week.  Only one woman out of 7 came with her sewing machine and tools.  They didn't bring one thing. Not even the instruction sheet I gave them.  I should have just canceled the class but stupid as I am I came down to my apartment and lugged my cutting mat, rulers, instruction sheets and iron.  This will never happen again.  If it does the class will be canceled.

So now you can see why I need mental help. No one in their right mind would put up with any of this.  

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Comment by Irene Gallway on April 30, 2016 at 10:25am

Good advice Joanna, Thanks for the prayers.  I can use all I can get. lol

Comment by Joanna liguz on April 30, 2016 at 8:45am

You can only have but ONE,,like chips you only need one....Too many men in your life is dangerous,,,LOL! You poor thing,,,,

Tell the person who is asking you about your "new beau" ~

What? You don't approve? Oh wait... it's none of your business.!

That is why we are still praying for you my dear..!

Comment by J.S. on April 28, 2016 at 5:56am
Sounds like my sister. She went through the same thing and says she's not interested in taking care of any more men. Hang in there.
Comment by Irene Gallway on April 28, 2016 at 3:09am

Thank you all for your good advice.  I agree with you all about the sewing class.  If they don't come prepared then the class will be canceled. And your right Ally about the fabric some people choose to buy. Once the sizing is washed out, usually after they have made something, it's looks terrible.

MaryAnn, I will look on You Tube for Teepa Snow's video's. I can use some encouragement and understanding.  I have a friend who's mother is a lot like Bud and we share similar stories.

Carol Ann, I'm very grateful that we have this Nursing facility for our Elderly. It's an hour drive from here but it's worth the drive to have somewhere safe to put our family members who need around the clock, long term care. I fear that Bud is going to get aggressive as time goes by. He gets angry and mouthy sometimes.

Thank you Terry for your kind words. I keep saying Bud is lucky to have me and not my sister.  She would have ripped his head off years ago. She tells me I have too much patients.  And I tell her it's because I got mine and her's too. lol

Good advice Barb. I will tell them before another class what they need and if they don't bring it then there will be no class.

Comment by Ally Bryant on April 27, 2016 at 7:49pm
Irene having been caregiver to my husband elderly aunt with dementia I know execly what you are going through.
You put a smile on my face about the small town gossips I think every town must have them. As for the sewing group, no tools no class, I always find that people that want something for nothing have the chesyiist fabric and don't want to put money into something they are going to sew, ending up looking like rubbish. So don't be taken advantage of that isn 't unkind that is protecting your sanity! Go out and enjoy yourself with friends life is too short.
Comment by MaryAnn on April 27, 2016 at 12:52pm

Irene, I am dealing with a mother with mild to moderate dementia. Several years ago Teepa Snow did a presentation at a local Alzheimer's gathering. I have found her to be informative in our family journey. She has lectures on You Tube and also a monthly computer newsletter. Mom is living in a retirement community with the three levels of care. Presently she is in the skilled care unit. Several yoga friends have begun a support group...we laugh and cry...helps to have understanding friends. I hope that you can find such a group also.

Comment by Carol Ann Hinton on April 27, 2016 at 9:36am

Irene, it seems like irritating stuff happen in bunches, doesn't it.  I agree with all the advice you have received here.  At least there is a place that will take Bud with his level of dementia.  I have a friend whose husband has descended rapidly into hereditary Alzheimers, and the homes in this area will not take him because he is going through an angry/aggressive cycle when he can't find her immediately, even though he is not sure who she is.  He is a large, strong man and he frightens others.  She is aging and tiring before my eyes!  What a cruel disease!

Comment by Terry F on April 26, 2016 at 8:48pm

Oh Irene, you are a saint!

Comment by Barb/WI on April 26, 2016 at 5:44pm

Yikes!  At least with Bud you can blame the dementia, but the sewing class ladies are another story.  Maybe if you decide to ever try helping them out again with the class, let them know they won't get the directions  unless they come prepared to actually take the class.  As for the "date", I love Pam's idea of keeping them wondering, but totally agree with your thinking about not wanting to take care of any more men.  Keep getting out whenever you can, it's survival!

Comment by Jodi Cramer on April 26, 2016 at 1:05pm

I did the math and 44 calls in 2 hours works out to a call every 2-3/4 minutes. Bless his heart. And yours too. It's not easy for either person. My DH also has "slowly developing dementia". He really struggles to make sense of his world & gets so angry when he can't remember. I think Mary's idea of a separate cell phone for your personal calls is an excellent one. I had to smile at the gossip-mongers. They are everywhere, aren't they? I just let them talk and ignore them. They are not worth the mental energy to dispute them. Finally, if you charge a small amount, like $5 0r $10 for a class, at least you will be reimbursed for your supplies. Thanks for your post.

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