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Yesterday I was mean to my mommie. Do I sound like a 6 yr. old? That's how I felt afterward. My mom was here yesterday with my sis "L" and we were discussing my upcoming move (still in the planning stages). I was talking about all the things I plan to sell or donate before the move. Both of them said "no! give those things to me!" It was like an echo chamber in here. I said "NO, both of you have too much sh_ _ in your homes!" THEN, I felt sorry for what I said so immediately I turned red. Surprise!!!! My mom agreed with me and blamed it on being born during the great depression. My sis denied it and neither thinks they will ever be on an episode of Hoarders. They were both most upset about my plan to part with some of my fabric. It's not the quilt fabric, I want to donate to Goodwill a lot of my old fabric for garments since I haven't sewed a garment in over 2 yrs. My mom can't believe that I'm giving any type of fabric away; she starts talking about some of her fabric that she's had for years (decades) and I'm silently praying that whatever insanity I've inherited has already manifested itself and there are no surprises in my future. Love you Mom, but you scare me sometimes! Rebecca (in Houston appreciating normalcy)

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Comment by Vourtsis on September 18, 2010 at 8:27pm
Sometimes you can't get through to a person, especially a loved one, until you get a little out of line. As long as it's not a habit, most close family members understand!

Donating fabric to Good Will is a good idea. I bought 2 yards each of 2 co-ordinating fabrics at GW, went to Walmart and got a 3rd and 4th fabric, and made a quilt for my nephew. He's thrilled and it didn't cost a fortune! Gave the little guy a lot of pleasure through anticipation, and he 'helped' me with the quilt by "putting the pedal to the metal" when I was piecing. Now that was a challenge, but we worked it out - which amazed me, as he is only 6. It helps that he doesn't expect perfection! I told him that if the quilt turned out bad, he would get the blame, and if it turned out good, I would get the credit. He asked me how much credit I would get and what would I buy with it!!! So I explained what 'credit' meant in the context of blame vs credit - praise for good work - he seemed disappointed...

And that's the other side of family relations - the stuff you laugh at and tell stories about years later!
Comment by Carol Wadkins on September 16, 2010 at 10:00am
I know for a fact that I have said things that I didn't really mean five minutes after I said them. And the worst if it is the fact that I don't deal at all well when something is said to me that's off color or down right mean and yet.................................. I guess such is life! We don't treat our families as well as we treat our friends!
Comment by Paula/TX on September 16, 2010 at 4:55am
Sometimes it happens and it didn't sound too bad.
Comment by B J Elder/WA on September 15, 2010 at 7:23pm
Families are so interesting.... we all have our stories of things about our own families. And I think if we're honest, we've said things we wish we hadn't the moment it came out of our mouths.
As far as parting with things, they are your things to part with in whatever manner you choose. Just like gifts... when you give a gift it is yours to do with as your choose and when you give a give it needs to be with no strings. Do what you feel is best and right with things you want to part with -- no guilt.
Comment by Joana Simmers/GA on September 15, 2010 at 6:07pm
We all slip sometimes and say things we wish we hadn't--even though those things may be absolutely true! I pretty much give my parents food presents now. My dad gets more pleasure out of a box of Little Debbies than he would from a book he can't see to read or a movie he couldn't follow (even if he or my mom could figure out how to work the player). But mostly it's because food stuff gets used up. About 15 or 16 years ago, I had bundled up a bunch of Country Living magazines--I had trouble throwing them away b/c they were so pretty and didn't go out of date. They were going to the library sale, but my mother wanted them--they are still stacked in various places in her house, still with the cord tied around them. I've learned too, though--except for quilting magazines, I get rid of one issue when the new one comes. And the nice thing is that other people enjoy getting them. And I've come to enjoy giving things away--bothers DH sometimes, but it feels good!
Comment by Marla Southers on September 15, 2010 at 5:48pm
My Mom was a hoarder too and I know that she lived through the depression as well but it still drove me crazy. What a mess we had to deal with after she died. My sister was so determined that she would not put her kids through it that she went home and started purging her home as well. I feel your pain on this one.
Comment by Marnie/NH on September 15, 2010 at 4:58pm
My parents were both hoarders. I do have to admit when each of us moved out of their home, we all got some furniture to take with us! 6 kids helped them for a few years. My dad had a lot of mechanical, machinery stuff but that is all gone in the garage fire that happened about 5 years ago, I am so glad it was after he died as he would have been heartbroken. My mom asks us kids to clean out her mess, she has a 4 bedroom house and no room for us to stay there. We have started throwing out a lot of it but we have to make sure everything we throw leaves her house before we leave or she goes through it after we are gone and takes things back! lol I hoard fabric, the rest I clear out from time to time! I can relate ...lol
Comment by Lynne on September 15, 2010 at 4:03pm
I am a hoarder of fabric. Ok, I admit it,, and I still buy. Sound familiar?? I have an agreement with my quilting friends, and DH is aware of this. They get to clean out my sewing room,,, take what they want, the rest will be donated to a guild for sale. With the guild keeping the $$$.
Comment by Shannon, ON on September 15, 2010 at 3:43pm
My mother was a tosser. I am told I am a hoarder. I am very sentimental! I don't keep old newspapers and broken spoons like on those shows, but I am a sucker for memorabilia. Mine or from my parents. I hide new fabric from my CHILDREN, who are quick to tell me that I had better get quilting before the fabric takes over another room! (besides the den LOL)
Comment by christi on September 15, 2010 at 2:27pm
Don't worry they'll get over it.

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