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Hi friends,

I'm doing pretty well. It's been about 3 1/2 months now since Dennis' passing. I have pretty much found my new 'normal' .  I spent Easter down in Oregon with my son, but also visiting a very close friend who was just diagnosed with a type of glioblastoma. Hers is not operable at all. She hopes to start chemo and radiation very soon. It was good seeing her. I hope to get down again later in May. 

Not much time or energy to be in my sewing room. I keep busy with three full days of work, and then trying to have energy to do all around the house, etc. after that.  Not complaining - I am very blessed. It feels like I'm entering a new season in many aspects of my life.

I do think of you and am so grateful for you all.

Blessings. BJ

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Comment by Laurie on May 8, 2019 at 1:28pm

Sorry for your loss.  Glad to hear you are finding a new normal.   I sometimes resist change, but sometimes we don't have an option.  I understand about the energy thing.  My mind makes to do lists my body can no way hang in there to finish in my proposed time frame.  Take it easy and  you'll be in my prayers!

Comment by Prairie Quilter Jan/NE on May 6, 2019 at 9:11am

About energy.  I know my situation caring for Dad at home and losing him to pancreatic cancer is much different than caring for and losing a spouse, but I didn't realize at the time how worn down I was getting.  We were coping well and just doing what needed done.  Afterward, it seemed it didn't take much to feel exhausted - mentally, physically and emotionally.  It took awhile to get my energy back.  I didn't know if it was attributed to aging, menopause, grief, or the lack of "purpose" after being a caregiver to Dad and to my 2 year old grandson while his momma was in the hospital for 2 months with a preemie.  At any rate, I can empathize with that feeling of lack of energy.  You continue to be remembered in prayer. 

Comment by Barbara Graham on April 29, 2019 at 12:27pm

Good to hear from you. Any huge change in life takes time to adjust to. I am sorry about your friend's illness. Hang in there. Take your time but try a few stitches each day. 

Big hugs.

Comment by Barb/WI on April 25, 2019 at 7:17pm

I am so very sorry to hear about your friend.  You do sound like you are adjusting as well as anyone possibly could under the circumstances.  I applaud your strength and resilience.

Comment by Janet/MO on April 24, 2019 at 9:05am

I too want to say that it is nice seeing a post from you BJ.  As the others have said, it takes a while to adjust to losing a loved one.  I'm happy you were able to spend Easter with your son, but am so sorry to hear about your friend.  

Comment by Pam/NY on April 24, 2019 at 8:38am

Hi BJ- thanks for keeping in touch. It isn't easy to find a new normal...but, one step forward at a time. Luckily, there's no clock on how soon you need to get there. 

Comment by Sharon Reeves on April 24, 2019 at 8:09am

I'm glad that you had Easter with your son and was able to see your friend. Taking a day at a time is what you should be doing. Everything will fall into place as time goes on. You'll have your sewing energy back to create new designs like you love to do. So sorry to hear about your friend and that has to be tough, having lost Dennis with the same cancer. Just know, that we are thinking of you and wishing you the very best. As a widowed friend said, "It's not easy adjusting to the new life, but things do fall into place and become a new normal. Please keep us posted on how you are doing. Hugs to you.

Comment by Irene Gallway on April 24, 2019 at 6:08am

Nice to hear from you BJ. You are missed on QWU. I'm glad to hear you spent Easter with your son. But sorry to hear that your friend has cancer. Someday you will have the energy to sew and if you are like me one project will get you back in full swing. Big hugs from Maine.

Comment by Prairie Quilter Jan/NE on April 24, 2019 at 5:46am

BJ, it's so good to hear from you.  Many years ago, a younger woman who'd been recently widowed and was overwhelmed with all the decisions she now faced on her own was told by a wise, older woman, "Just do the next thing."  It sounds like you are doing just that and doing it well.  I'm sorry to hear of your friend's diagnosis.  It must have been difficult to hear coming so closely on the heels of  your own loss.  Thanks for touching base with us.  We think of you often.

Comment by Irene Gallway on April 24, 2019 at 4:55am

Nice to hear from you BJ. I'm glad you're doing well and keeping busy. Thanks for thinking of us on QWU. You are missed.

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