I just found out I am to become a grandmother for the first time! My son & his girlfriend (yes, I wish it was his wife - I already sang that song to them 2 years ago when they moved in together but they were not listening - I refuse to punish an innocent baby by withholding my affections because they are not married) are going to be parents in September. I am really excited and thank the Lord, I love his girlfriend as if she were my own daughter - he's had some doozies, but happily, he finally settled with a girl that is a real match for him. I have started collecting books, panels, yarn - you name it!! I wish I knew if it were a girl or boy so I could get started on my mad frenzy of sewing, crocheting, maybe even knitting!! I can't wait!!
My brother & his wife had an open house for their son & his wife who had their first in December - Maeve - she's adorable! And my sister has one grandbaby - another girl - who is now a year old - so in three years, there will be three grandbabies in our family - sure wish my parents were alive to see them all.
Grandparenthood is an opportunity to do a better job the second time around - that's what I think - you don't have the pressures of responsibility for another life that you did with your own kids - and some of us were just naive kids ourselves when we became parents - then, you're raising yourself AND a baby!!
I personally plan on totally enjoying the little one - I left an abusive marriage when my children were 2 & 4 and the stress of trying to support them was almost insurmountable - I look forward to just enjoying this grandbaby as a person without worrying about his/her support.